What is it about us, who we are, that we are afraid to see?
I have the most incredible job in the world. First and foremost, I am a photographer in Barbados. I'm lucky enough to have a job that affords me time to be with my family, to go watch their school plays and afternoon activities, to be able to travel with my husband and second shooter to photograph families and weddings. It rocks, I won't even lie.
Perhaps as amazing as all of this, is that I get to meet people, understand them, empathize with them, and of course, photograph them. Photographing people is an incredible moment between me and my clients, but often times, most times, if we're all being honest, it is a nightmare, a cringe worthy slice of time which they would really and truly like to be rid of as soon as possible.
How do I know? Well for starters, I can't tell you how many times a bride, or a mom or dad contact me and the first thing they say in our meeting is "me and my fiancee are not photogenic", or "my husband hates having his picture taken", or "please, we don't want any formal images that are staged, we don't want to know the camera is on us". Anyone feel this way?
And secondly, I'm right there with you. When I say, I empathize with these sentiments, I sincerely know that gut wrenching feeling of having a camera in your face, and just wanting to get this over and done with. I hear you.. ohhh I hear you.
But what if I could turn your fear of the camera into something so beautiful, so vibrant, and so perfect - would you believe me? Stick with me for a minute.
You, my friend, are a star. You know which side of your face is better, but from where I stand, you are beautiful when you look both right and left. You believe you aren't photogenic - but what does that really mean? The Merriam Webster dictionary says that photogenic is some(one) "who is suitable for being photographed especially because of visual appeal". Suitable for being photographed? And you don't think you deserve a place in your family history because according to something, or someone, or yourself, you aren't "photogenic?".
Let me be the first to tell you how deserving you are. To the bride: when your husband looks at you for the first time in your wedding dress, aren't you beautiful then? To the groom: Your bride has chosen you to be by her side for the rest of her life, and she sees nothing less than perfection as the one she has chosen, to her, you are the most "photogenic" man alive. To new moms: the look on your face as you finally see the child that has been growing inside of you, the first smell, the first touch of those toes, the wonder, fear and love in your eyes - are those emotions on your face not photogenic enough? To parents: when your child hugs you, and you pull them in close and feel their beating heart on your chest, the immense and unconditional love you have for them that can bring you to your knees, is shown on your face, is that not worthy of a memory for your child later in life?
Who you are, your quirkiness, your idiosyncrasies, your love, and the fact that you are so loved, makes you as "photogenic" and even more so than anyone gracing the cover of Vogue or GQ..
You, my friend, are a star..